Who runs the world? Girls, said Beyonce Knowles, the famous singer in one of her hit songs ‘Run the World’.
Do girls really run the world and if that is the case what do boys run? Just because they are unable to carry a human life for nine months doesn’t make them less important in society. It is very distasteful to put all the focus on girls only, what about boys? Just like Cell C’s, ‘Take A Girl Child To Work’ annual campaign, which focuses on girls from disadvantaged backgrounds being able to spend a day in the corporate world.
The campaign started back in 2003 and it doesn’t include boys being taken to the office for a day. I have always questioned why boys aren’t included in such campaigns. Could it be because they show no interest in joining the corporate environment or are they just being excluded for no particular reason?
Let’s take it back to the stone age… When a boy was born, the family would commemorate the birth of a boy, especially the father of the child, this was because the father knew that his legacy and the family surname would live on. As this little boy grows up he is taught, at a very tender age, chores that he should and shouldn’t do, like washing the dishes and cleaning the house was set aside for girls to do.
While boys looked after their father’s livestock. They were taught to fight for themselves and to never shed a tear no matter how painful it may be. Boys were programmed to think that they are providers and protectors of their families and nothing more.
Switching back to the present day, not much has changed in terms of chores. Though it differs from one family to the next. Boys are still being brainwashed to think that they are emotionally tough and that their place is definitely not in the kitchen. If, by any chance, he is seen crying, his friends and family will call him weak and a mamas boy. Don’t boys feel pain too? Don’t they experience heartache, disappointments and betrayal, just like girls?
Let us move away from such tendencies because it is such manipulation that makes it hard for boys to confide in their parents and their peers. They tend to deal with matters on their own and don’t have a shoulder to cry on.
Having to deal with bullying at school and at universities makes matters worse.
Parents, let us groom boys the same way we groom our girls, let us teach them all chores and cooking skills. Let us parents teach our children, no matter the gender, that crying is okay, and asking for help should not be seen as a sign of weakness but rather as a state of vulnerability that should be handled with care. Let us teach our boys how to treat girls just as we teach girls how to treat their future husbands as their superior. Boys should also be taught self-discipline and self-love above all else as they are humans too and not just some species to protect and provide only.
Boys matter too just as much as girls do.
Do the right thing and let your sons know that he is just as loved and important as girls are.